Training how to be self-confident. Self-confidence - exercise. Get exercise

Get up from your seats

Description

The participants sit in a circle. The leader “throws out” any number of fingers on his hands. As many participants must rise at the same time as the number of fingers shown. It is impossible to agree in advance on how to perform the exercise.

The meaning of the exercise

Training of decisiveness, the ability to intuitively understand the intentions of other people and coordinate their actions with them, the development of a flexible response to changing circumstances, as well as mindfulness.

Discussion

Who was guided by what, when making decisions, at what moment should he get up, and at what moment should he remain in place? Who took the initiative and who was afraid (perhaps never getting up)?

jugglers

Description

Participants stand in a circle, they are given 3-5 balls at the same time (you can also use lumps of crumpled paper sheets).

The task is to simultaneously throw all these balls in such a way that none of them fall to the floor. The time that can be held in this way is fixed. It is interesting to organize a competition between several teams, which one will last longer.

The meaning of the exercise

Development of the ability to adequately respond to a rapidly changing situation, reaction speed, dexterity. Physical warm-up, activation of participants.

Discussion

What qualities, besides dexterity, from the point of view of the participants predetermined success in this game? Is it necessary to coordinate joint actions with other participants, or is it each "for himself"?

Owl

Description

One of the participants - the driver - depicts an "owl", which guards its prey in the daytime. But, being a bird of the night, on a bright sunshine she does not see anything (the eyes of the driver are closed or bandaged) and therefore cannot fly (it is forbidden to leave her place). "Production", which is depicted by 10-15 crumpled sheets of paper, lies at the feet of the driver. The rest of the participants are located around, depicting a flock of "day birds", and at the signal of the leader, they try to steal its "prey" from the "owl". The one who was caught by the "owl" is out of the game. In one attempt, only one piece of "prey" is allowed to be stolen. The participant who gets the most of these pieces wins and is awarded with applause.

The meaning of the exercise

Training in speed of reaction, observation, the ability to act in accordance with a rapidly changing situation.

Discussion

What qualities of the "owl" and "day birds" determined their success in this game? Where in real life Are these qualities in demand?

Running with a pencil

Description

Participants are divided into pairs. Each pair will need a pencil (you can also use a capped felt-tip pen or a retractable fountain pen). The couples stand near one of the walls of the room and each raise their own pencil, holding it between the index fingers of the partners' right hands. At the command of the leader, they begin to move to the opposite wall of the room, and then back, continuing to hold the pencil between their fingers. Whoever drops it is out of the game. The pair that covers the distance the fastest wins. You can modify the exercise: hold two pencils at the same time (one between the index fingers of the right, and the second - of the left hand), run along complex trajectories, in triplets, organize a relay race.

The meaning of the exercise

The exercise teaches you to coordinate your actions, as well as take the initiative, manage these actions. Develops a flexible response to a changing environment, determination. It is also a physical warm-up, activates the group, relieves tension.

Discussion

What qualities are most important for the successful completion of this exercise? What contributed to its implementation, and what, on the contrary, prevented it?

A train

Description

6-8 participants depict a “train”, standing in a column and putting their hands on the shoulders of the person in front. All but the first close their eyes. This "train" needs to pass through the obstacles that other participants represent. With a small number of players playing part of the obstacles can be depicted with the help of chairs. The task of the "train" is to proceed from one wall of the room to another, on the way, be sure to go around 3-4 obstacles in a circle (the leader indicating which ones) and not collide with the rest. Obstacles depicted with the help of other players (it is desirable that those that need to go around in a circle are just one of them), when the “train cars” approach them at a dangerously close distance

may make warning sounds, such as starting to sing. The game is repeated several times to give everyone the opportunity to be both in the role of obstacles and as part of the "train". If there are many participants and the size of the room allows, you can make the games more dynamic by running two "trains" at the same time.

The meaning of the exercise

Cohesion, increasing mutual trust of participants, confidence training behavior, if necessary, to act in the absence of information, relying on partners. Development of the ability to coordinate joint actions. Physical workout.

Discussion

Whom did you like to be more - “locomotive”, “wagonmi”, obstacles; what is it connected with? What emotions did anyone have while moving as part of the “train”? What real life situations can this game be likened to?

Bifurcation

Description

Participants are given short description any conflict situation: for example, a teenage girl wants to go to a disco late in the evening, but her mother does not let her go there. One participant is invited to the role of one of the participants in the conflict, and two at once to the role of the second. The one who plays the role alone speaks the lines in the usual way, and those who are together speak word by word: one of them says one word, the other the next, etc. At the same time, they should have a coherent, logically coherent conversation . The game is repeated 3-4 times with different partners.

The meaning of the exercise

Teaching the skills of mutual understanding with a partner, "adjusting" to him in a conversation. Material for discussing strategies of behavior in conflict situations.

Discussion

What was the main difficulty of the game "two for one"? What qualities were required of them in order to get a really coherent conversation, would they be able to act together as a single interlocutor? What ways of behavior in conflicts were demonstrated: passive justification, aggressive attack of the interlocutor, ignoring his statements, “avoiding the topic”, etc.? In what real life situations related to conflicts, these ways of behavior are effective?

I succeed

Description

Participants take it in turns to stand up and talk about something they are particularly good at. Then they answer two questions:

How did they manage to learn this?

Where can this skill come in handy?

The meaning of the exercise

Creating conditions for self-presentation, acquaintance, increasing motivation to learn new activities. breaking psychological barriers between participants.

Discussion

What did each of you want to learn from what the other participants talked about? Which member surprised you? Made me look at it in a new way?

Just say no

Description

Participants are divided into two equal subgroups (with an odd number of them, the leader also participates in the exercise). Members of one subgroup stand in a circle facing outward, members of the second subgroup - in a circle of larger diameter facing the center, so that each of them is opposite the participant from the inner circle. Then each of the participants standing in the outer circle turns to the one opposite him with a request, and he refuses. At the same time, he should not begin to make excuses, explain the reasons for his refusal, apologize, explain the inappropriateness of the request or the impossibility of fulfilling it. You should refuse by simply saying “No,” “Unfortunately, I can’t,” “No, I won’t do it,” or using other similar phrases.

After that, the outer circle is shifted by one person relative to the inner one (that is, the composition of the couples changes), and now those

stands in the inner circle, they turn to the outer ones with regular requests, and they refuse. The circle shifts by one more person, the outer ones make a request to the inner ones, and this is repeated 6-8 times.

The meaning of the exercise

Demonstration that we can refuse to comply with the request without excuses and explanations of any reasons.

Discussion

What emotions arose when you had to ask and when you had to refuse? What was more difficult - to make requests and get rejected for them or to refuse them yourself, what is it connected with? A request is a form of influence that, unlike an order or demand, implies the possibility of refusal. What is the reason why people are often embarrassed to ask others for a request, and if they are asked with a request, they are embarrassed to refuse? Suppose the request is unacceptable for us and we still decide to refuse. When is it better to do it without giving reasons, as in this exercise, and when should a refusal be accompanied by an apology, explanation of its reasons, promises to fulfill the request later, etc.?

Gretsov A., Bedareva T. Psychological games for high school students and students

Training "Increasing self-confidence"

Target: development of the skill of confident behavior, self-knowledge, self-improvement,recognition of one's undiscovered potential.

Training objectives:

expand your self-image;

to update and realize their strengths;

help group members identify confident demeanor from insecure;

Materials: a small ball, A4 paper, a pen, pencils or felt-tip pens, calm relaxing music.

Time spending: 3 hours 10 minutes

Number of participants: 12

Course of the training program

Introduction : Self-confidence is a person's experience of his capabilities, both adequate to the tasks that he faces in life, and to those that he sets himself. Self-confidence in any kind of activity takes place when a person's self-esteem corresponds to his real capabilities. If self-esteem is higher (lower) than real capabilities, then self-confidence (self-doubt) takes place, respectively. Self-confidence can also become a stable personality trait.

Exercise 1 "Funny ball"

Target : warm-up, developing the ability to speak and listen to compliments.

Time: 5 minutes

Material: small size ball

Exercise progress: Let's start today with a game. Throwing this ball to each other in turn, we will talk about unconditional virtues, strengths the one to whom the ball is tossed. We will be careful that everyone has the ball.

Exercise 2 "Steps"

Target : to help participants build adequate self-esteem.

Time: 7 minutes

Material: paper, pen, pencil

Exercise progress : Participants are asked to draw a ladder of 10 steps. Instructions are given: “Draw yourself on the step you think you are on right now.”

After everyone has drawn, the facilitator gives the key to this technique:

Step 1-4 - low self-esteem

Step 5-7 - self-esteem is adequate

8-10 step - self-esteem is too high

Questions for discussion:

1. Is it correct given result your idea of ​​self-worth? Why do you think so?

Exercise 3 "Great Master"

Target: actualization of the strengths of the individual.

Time: 10 minutes

Material: paper, pen, pencil

Exercise progress: I invite you to think about the "Great Master" of what you are and tell everyone about it. 2 minutes to think. Each participant in a circle begins his statement with the words “I am a great master ......”, for example, hiking, making coffee, and you need to convince other participants of this.

Questions for discussion:

Was it difficult or easy for you to remember and say in front of everyone what master you are?

What feelings arose during the task?

Exercise 4 "I am strong - I am weak"

Target : help group members distinguish confident behavior from insecure behavior, promote the development of self-confidence through role-playing.

Time : 15 minutes

materials : not required.

Exercise progress : Participants are divided into pairs and each stand opposite each other. The first person in the pair holds out their hand. The second participant in the pair tries to lower the partner's hand by pressing on it from above. The first participant in the pair should try to hold his hand, while saying loudly and decisively: "I am strong." Now we repeat the same thing, but the first participant in the pair says “I am weak”, pronouncing it with the appropriate intonation, i.e. quiet, sad. Try to change.

Questions for discussion:

When was it easier for you to hold your hand: in the first or in the second case?

Why do you think?

What feelings did you experience while doing this exercise?

What effect did the phrases you uttered “I am strong”, “I am weak” have on the performance of the task?

Exercise 5 "Drawing I"

Target : expand self-image, self-knowledge.

Time : 25 minutes

materials

Exercise progress : Taking pencils or felt-tip pens, paper, participants are located anywhere in the room. It is desirable that no one sit next to each other. On a piece of paper, they have to draw their own image in allegorical form as they imagine themselves. A certain amount of time is given for drawing. For example, after 10 minutes, after which one should not strictly demand the end of the drawing, each participant should be given the opportunity to finish his drawing in a calm atmosphere.

Instructions for participants: You can draw whatever you want. It can be a picture of nature, a still life, an abstraction, a fantasy world, an action-packed situation, something in the style of a rebus, in general, anything, but with what you associate, connect, explain, compare yourself, your state of life, your nature.

Questions for discussion:

What qualities does this person have?

Is he a confident person or vice versa?

When they spoke about your drawing, what feelings did you experience?

Does everything said about this picture match your qualities?

Exercise 6 "Motto"

Target: make participants aware of their individuality and goals in life.

Time: 15 minutes

Materials: paper, pens

Exercise progress: Leading. There was a custom in the old days - to depict the family coat of arms and motto on the castle gates, on the knight's shield, i.e. a short sentence expressing the guiding idea or purpose of the owner's activity. We will not draw a coat of arms, but let's think about the motto. Each member of the group must formulate his own motto, which reflects his life credo, attitude towards the world as a whole and towards himself. 5 minutes are given to formulate the motto (but participants should not be rushed). Then you will read your mottos one by one and, if necessary, give the necessary explanations.

The main thing in this exercise is the idea and emancipation of self-expression. During the discussion, everyone has the right to ask each other questions and comment on their mottos.

Questions for discussion:

1. What feelings arose when compiling the motto?

2. Why was the task useful?

3. Will you use this motto in your life?

Exercise 7 "Who am I?"

Target : promote rapprochement of the group, introspection.

Time : 15 minutes

materials : paper, pens.

Exercise progress: Participants are invited to think about the question “Who am I?”, Then write numbers from 1 to 10 on a piece of paper, opposite each number you need to write your characteristics, traits, interests, which perhaps none of those present can guess. Then everyone hands over their paper to the host, the papers are shuffled and everyone chooses a paper. The characteristics are read aloud and the participants must guess who these traits belong to.

Issues for discussion:

What feelings did you experience while doing the exercise?

Was it easy for you to do it?

Was it difficult for any of you to guess who the characteristics belong to?

In your opinion, did all of the listed characteristics of a person suit this participant?

Exercise 8 "Intonation"

Target : Closing correction.

Time: 15 minutes

Materials: paper

Exercise progress: On small pieces of paper, participants write the name of any feeling, emotion. Then the sheets are collected, shuffled and distributed again. Now the group decides which phrase, line from the verse to take as the basis for further actions. After that, the participants take turns pronouncing this phrase with an intonation corresponding to the feeling that they have written down on a piece of paper. The rest of the group guesses with what intonation the phrase was uttered.

Questions for discussion:

1. Was there any embarrassment when pronouncing the phrase in such an unusual way?

2. How did the exercise evoke feelings?

Exercise 9 "Additional drawing"

Target : to reveal a tendency to insecurity.

Time : 20 minutes

materials : pencils or felt-tip pens, A4 paper.

Procedure : The pattern is sent around. One of the participants begins to draw, the other continues, adding something, and so on in a circle.

The drawing can be done with felt-tip pens, pencils ... The drawing is done on one sheet because. The theme is to increase confidence. With each subsequent addition, the space will decrease, which can confuse an insecure person, because. it will "disturb" the other's drawing.

When analyzing the resulting drawing, the artistic level of its implementation is not taken into account. It's about, first of all, about the feelings of the subjects being tested by the subject when adding someone else's drawing, the lack of a place where you can draw something of your own, the fear of spoiling what has already been drawn ...

Questions:

Did you complete the drawing?

If not, why not?

Is that exactly what you would like to add?

If not, why not?

What exactly did you picture?

Exercise 10 "I am a star"

Target : developing skills of confident behavior.

Time : 20 minutes

materials : not required.

Procedure : The exercise is carried out in a circle. Each participant chooses for himself the role of a star that is significant for him and at the same time known to those present (Alla Pugacheva, president, fairy-tale character, literary hero, etc.). Then he conducts a self-presentation (verbally or non-verbally: he says a phrase or shows some gesture that characterizes his star). The rest of the participants try to guess the name of the "idol".

Questions:

Was it difficult for you to choose the role of a significant and famous star for yourself?

What is similar between you and the chosen star?

What feelings did you have during the presentation?

Did you try to show the star you chose in a way that was understandable to others?

Where was it easier to show or guess?

Exercise 11 "Just believe in yourself"

Target: relaxation, self-knowledge, raising self-confidence.

Time: 15 minutes

Materials: calm, relaxing music

Exercise progress : It is suggested to sit comfortably, close your eyes and relax. When everyone sat down, calmed down, the music starts to sound and the host says his words: Close your eyes and imagine that you are in a large room with two mirrors on opposite walls. In one of them you see your reflection. Your appearance, facial expression, posture - everything speaks of an extreme degree of uncertainty. You hear how timidly and quietly you pronounce the words, and your inner voice constantly repeats: “I am the worst of all!” Try to completely merge with your reflection in the mirror and feel completely immersed in the swamp of uncertainty. With each inhalation and exhalation, increase the sensations of fear, anxiety, suspiciousness. And then slowly "exit" the mirror and note how your image becomes more and more dimmer and, finally, goes out completely. You will never return to it.

Slowly turn around and look at your reflection in another mirror. You are a confident person! Memory suggests three bright events in your life when you were "on horseback". Remember the sounds, images, smells that accompanied your feeling of confidence then. Your inner voice broke out: “I believe in myself! I'm confident!" The red bar of your confidence rises on the scale of the thermometer and with each inhalation and exhalation you approach the centigrade mark. What is the color of your confidence? Fill yourself with it. Create a cloud of confidence around you and surround your body with it. Add music of confidence, smells. Try to see the symbols, the image of your confidence and merge with it. Imagine a sweeping inscription in gilded letters on basalt: “I am confident!”. Imagine a huge hall. You stand on the stage, and tens of thousands of people applaud you. At the end, take a deep breath and open your eyes..

Questions for discussion:

1. What feelings did you have after imagining yourself confident?

2. The image of which person presented himself better? Confident or vice versa?

Reflection

Target: summarizing the training Feedback

Time: 15 minutes

Materials: not required

Exercise progress: The group members are invited to close their eyes and imagine that the group session is over. You are going home.Think about what you didn't say to the group but would like to say. What psychological qualities did you manifest while participating in the training? What feelings did you experience? What did you learn about yourself, about the group? How will you use this knowledge? What have you learned? How will this be useful in the future? What was important? What are you thinking about? What happened to you? What needs to be developed for the future? After a few minutes, it is proposed to open your eyes and answer any question from all voiced.

Thank you very much for coming to the training, I hope that it will not pass without a trace in your life, that something will be useful to you and that you have thought about something and will work in this direction. Goodbye.

Ulyanova Natalya Viktorovna

MOU secondary school No. 3, Raduzhny, Khanty-Mansiysk district

Educational psychologist

Confidence training.

Lesson 1

Developing self-confidence starts with

eliminating the demon called fear;

this demon sits on a man's shoulder and

whispers to him: "You can't do this..."

N. Hill. Law of success

Target: Creating conditions for finding your strengths, training confident behavior in a situation of public speaking.

Equipment :

1. Tape recorder.

Recordings of calm music (sounds of nature).

Planks format A 4.

Colored crayons, colored pencils.

Sheets of paper A 4.

Cards with incomplete phrases.

Running time: 90 minutes.

Age: 13-15 years (participants of the scientific and practical conference).

Lesson progress

Greetings to the participants of the training. Message about the goals of the planned work. Development of rules for working in a group.

Mini lecture.

Confident behavior is a collective concept that includes various states. It:

goal-oriented: a confident person quite accurately represents his goals and builds his own actions in such a way that they allow him to get closer to the intended goals. However, they should be: realistic, specific and positive;

focused on overcoming emerging obstacles, and not on experiencing them: a confident person is able to change the style of his communication, depending on which interlocutors he contacts and in what conditions this happens.

flexible, implying an adequate response to a rapidly changing environment;

socially oriented - aimed at building constructive relationships with others: the movement "towards people." Such a person strives to establish harmonious relationships with others based on trust, mutual understanding and cooperation.

combining spontaneity with the possibility of arbitrariness of arbitrary regulation, i.e. such a person does not seek to constantly suppress his emotions and feelings, allows himself to openly express them. But if necessary, he is ready to take them under control;

persistent, but not turning into aggressive: a person makes efforts to achieve his goals, but does this, if possible, not to the detriment of the interests of other people, but is ready to defend his interests very tough and go into conflict only for objective reasons. It is preferable for him not to go on principle, but to resolve the conflict flexibly.

creative: a person who exhibits confident behavior does not waste energy on fighting with anyone or anything, but instead creates what he sees fit

Thus: “Self-confidence is understood as the ability of a person to put forward and implement their own goals, needs, desires, claims, interests, feelings in relation to their environment”

(Starshenbaum, 2006, p. 92).

Confident people are characterized by:

independence;

self-sufficiency.

External signs of a confident person:

looks calm;

carries himself with dignity;

open look;

even posture;

A confident person can:

defend your position peacefully;

speak frankly without hostility or self-defence;

stand up for your rights without violating the rights of others. This is direct, open behavior, not intended to harm others.

Practical part.

Exercise "Repeat after me"

Acquaintance, warm-up. The exercise allows you to remember the names of the participants.

Instruction: The participant who starts the exercise tells the group his name and accompanies it with some simple movement. All participants repeat his name and movements.

Exercise "Drawing in a circle."

The psychological meaning of the exercise.

Removal of psychophysical stress, group cohesion.

Instruction: take a sheet of white paper and choose the color of the pencil that is most pleasing to you. As soon as you hear the signal (clapping your hands), start drawing whatever you want. By cotton, pass your sheet along with a pencil to the neighbor on the left, he finishes drawing. Then further in a circle until the sheet returns back to the owner.

Maybe one of you wants to add to your drawing, or maybe change something in it or draw a new one?

Analysis :

1. Did you like what happened?

3. Was it difficult to support the theme of the other person's drawing?

Exercise "Frankly"

The psychological meaning of the exercise.

Strengthening group trust in others, relieving internal tension, fears, creating a situation of frankness.

Material: cards with incomplete sentences.

Instruction: There is a stack of cards in front of you. Now each of you will go out in turn and take one card each, on which an unfinished phrase is written. You need to immediately, without hesitation, finish the phrase. Try to be as frank and sincere as possible. If the group members feel the insincerity of any of the participants, he will have to take another card with a new text and answer again.

To be honest, when I think about the upcoming lesson...

Frankly speaking, when I get ready for the lessons

To be honest, when I get home...

To be honest, when I'm worried...

To be honest, when I come to class...

To be honest, when I talk to my parents...

To be frank, when parents gather for a meeting at school...

To be honest, when I'm preparing for a public speaking...

To be honest, when I look into the hall and see a lot of people…

To be honest, when my performance was over...

To be honest, I miss...

Analysis:

1. Was it difficult to complete the suggested phrases?

2. Did you learn anything new about your fellow band members?

3. Have you learned something new about yourself?

4. What are your life's most important goals at the moment?

Name Parsing Exercise

The psychological meaning of the exercise.

Providing an opportunity for self-presentation.

Material: sheets of A4 paper, colored pencils.

Instruction: Participants are invited to spell their name and pick up words that begin with each of these letters that characterize them. 4-5 minutes are given for reflection. Then everyone calls his name and the characteristics that he managed to come up with.

Here's how, for example, the name "Victoria" might look like:

B - polite

I - interesting

K - beautiful

T - mysterious

Oh - charming

R. - different

I - resourceful

Analysis:

Was it difficult to find characteristics?

Who would like to add other characteristics that are very suitable for you, but their names do not begin with the letters that go into the name?

Exercise "Well done!"

The psychological meaning of the exercise.

Formation of confident behavior in times of stress.

Instruction: You need to divide into two groups according to the principle: external - internal. Form an inner and outer circle. Participants in the outer circle must find a partner from the inner; stand opposite each other and, on a signal, take turns talking about your achievements. The one who listens bends his fingers and utters a phrase for each achievement of the partner: “And you are great! Once! And you are great! Two!" Etc. If you think only bad things about yourself, still courageously assert only good things about yourself.

If any of you feel embarrassed or insecure while doing this exercise, say to yourself: "I love myself, I am unique and one of a kind!"

Whenever negative assessments come to your mind, remember that you still need to develop and develop naturally, you cannot be perfect yet.

On a signal, the inner circle stays where it is, while the members of the outer circle take a step and change partners. The game continues.

Analysis:

1. How many good things did you remember about yourself and about yourself?

2. Do you sometimes say to yourself, "I'm good at this?"

3. What have you learned from your partner?

The psychological meaning of the exercise.

Creating conditions for finding your strengths, training confident behavior in a situation of public presentation.

Material: sheets of A4 paper, pencils.

Instruction: Participants need to prepare and provide a recommendation in order to be accepted into a closed elite club. Prepare such a recommendation for yourself. It should reflect your main advantages, strengths, present yourself as worthy to be in the "elite club". It is up to the participants to decide what exactly to pay attention to, but they should be reminded that it should be about real, not fictional facts and virtues.

Analysis :

1. What presentations are best remembered for what exactly?

2. If someone has difficulties, what are they connected with, how can they be overcome?

Exercise "Abstract painting"

The psychological meaning of the exercise.

At the stage of creating drawings, the creativity of the participants is trained, at the presentation stage - confident behavior in the situation of presenting the results of their work to the public.

Material: sheets A4 paper, colored pencils.

Instruction: Participants receive a sheet of A4 paper. They are asked to take a pencil or felt-tip pen, close their eyes and paint this sheet in such a way that there is no free space left on it, the pencil has been in all corners (1-2 minutes). Then the participants are asked to open their eyes, look closely at the resulting scribbles, think of what they look like, and draw them in such a way that a meaningful image comes out (6-10 minutes). The final stage is the presentation by the authors of their work in front of the group (1 minute for each person).

Analysis:

What drawings are remembered, seemed the most interesting, what exactly?

What psychological qualities are required to successfully cope with such a task?

Where in life will these qualities come in handy?

Exercise "on the track" - "Circle of confidence"

Imagine an invisible circle with a diameter of 60 centimeters on the floor about half a meter away from you.

Come into this circle and remember the great time when you were on the "wave of success." In this situation, all your abilities were maximally manifested. Everything was fine, good luck accompanied you.

Develop a complete visual, auditory and kinesthetic picture of this state. Mark for yourself and remember how you see, hear and feel the world around you in a situation of success. As usual, your voice sounds confident, how stable and proud your posture is. Imagine yourself at your best.

Return from the circle to a neutral state. Remember the complex in the Circle of Confidence. This complex will be the key to confidence and calmness when you need them.

When a special situation arises that requires confidence, enter your thoughts into this circle. Like stepping into a picture of yourself.

IY . Closing remarks by the moderator. Summarizing. Wishes to all present. Discussion. Issuing recommendations.

Look at your audience from a different perspective:

imagine that these are not demanding listeners who will now evaluate your report, but your classmates, who will also have to speak soon, that they are as nervous as you are and you have no reason to be afraid of them.

imagine that these are your old friends whom you have not seen for ten years. At the same time, look at the listeners with such an expression on your face, as if trying to remember where you might have seen them before. Listeners will take this as a friendly and slightly personal expression.

talk to the same person all the time.

Choose one person from the entire audience and dedicate your speech to him.

When someone else asks you a question, switch to it, but imagine that the two of you are casually talking at recess.

and of course it is very important to be prepared for the presentation (know the material, use visuals).

List of literature used in compiling the summary:

Alieva M.A. and others. I build my own life. SPb., 2000

Alberti R., Emmons M. Self-assertive behavior. SPb., 1998

Gretsov A. G. Communication training for teenagers. SPb., 2005

Gretsov A. G. Training of confident behavior. SPb., 2008

Smith M. Self-confidence training. SPb., 1997

Fopel K. How to teach children to cooperate? Psychological games and exercises. M., 2000

What separates successful people from unsuccessful ones? Probably many people have thought about this question. The same question Eric Bertrand Larssen (motivational coach) asks businessmen who have achieved huge success. And he gets one answer: "I always thought: everything is possible." Little kids have a stock of confidence from birth. Flying to the moon or becoming a wizard - nothing is impossible for them. But as they grow older, many completely lose this ability. But there is good news: self-confidence can be pumped, just like biceps and triceps. That's what self-confidence training is for.

What is self-confidence training

Self-confidence training is an active learning method aimed at developing psychological “muscles” to increase self-esteem. This is faith in yourself - in your appearance, intelligence, experience, professionalism. Confident people fully admit that they may not like others, but perceive this fact with a healthy dose of skepticism. Self-confidence is manifested in the first days after birth. But parents, the environment, the school are trying to pacify the "uncomfortable" character traits. Excessive anxiety or too aggressive guardianship of parents muffles self-confidence, which subsequently returns with failures in adulthood. But there is good news - the feeling of confidence can be "pumped", like other muscle groups.

Parallel between physical activity and self-confidence carried out for a reason. Regular physical exercise increase stress resistance, develop strength, perseverance. Taking care of your physical condition helps to control impatience, manage time or concentration. People who are fit and athletic are treated with great interest by those around them. During exercise, the body releases endorphins. Happiness hormones help to get rid of irritability and bitterness of failure. Happiness also increases self-confidence, because it is directly related to personal effectiveness. Muscles (mental or physiological) take time to replenish energy. Rest breaks for relaxation should be part of the daily routine.

Why do you need self-confidence training?

Faith, self-confidence, love, sympathy - these states are filled with a special energy of happiness. They increase activity and self-esteem. But there are also paralyzing states - anger, envy, fear, anxiety, which contribute to the depletion of energy. Knowing how to manage your conditions is the key to self-confidence. Training helps to accept yourself in all states - in good and bad.

Adults manage to build around themselves a lot of barriers that prevent the achievement of goals. They convince themselves that they deserve a “normal” life. Unloved job, problems family relations, "toxic" environments help to make sure that they are not worthy of a life that they can remember with pride or great joy. Self-confidence training helps to lay the foundation for the future building, on the facade of which will be inscribed: "I can."

Self-esteem is a capricious young lady, but controlled. Do not confuse her exorbitant ego. The ego does not allow a person to be flexible in relation to himself and others. In addition to painstaking work to increase self-esteem, you need to concentrate on your strengths. Adequate assessment of one's own achievements, recognition of one's merits and victories (even if insignificant) help to move forward. And for further work, you need to complete a small practical task and understand what practical actions help increase self-esteem:

• Awareness of values. Mahatma Gandhi wrote: “Habits become values. Values ​​become destiny." True values ​​are often forgotten in Everyday life. It is the framework upon which all life rests. Awareness of real values ​​helps to make the right decisions. Or “act according to conscience”, as our ancestors used to say.
• The ability to say "no". Refusing unprofitable offers, a person clearly forms the following message: "I value myself and my time."
• Purification of personal space from unnecessary things and "toxic" environment. People who make you feel uncomfortable should be avoided. It doesn't work - learn to fight back. And gradually form an environment that will support all undertakings and goals.
• assertive behavior. The ability not to fall into extremes like aggression or passive doing nothing. Assertiveness helps to compromise, respect the opinions of others, but not to the detriment of one's own goals.
• self-organization. Planning, prioritizing, and journaling help with financial awareness and tidying up your home and workplace.
• Appearance and behavior. Posture, smile, gestures, thoughtful wardrobe - external factors not only improve mood, but also broadcast it to others.

Self-doubt, like low self-esteem, is a product of a person’s personal history. What contributes to this?

• Dependence on the evaluation of strangers. Everything is relative. How many people, so many opinions. You just need to remind yourself that for every opinion there is another, diametrically opposed in meaning.
• Guilt and shame. Guilt is an imposed concept. Shame is the result of one's own beliefs. In any case, you should not get too immersed in these experiences, otherwise they will poison your entire conscious life.
• Fear of failure. The most are not insured from them successful people peace. Failure is a negative experience. The more failures, the faster a person can learn something.

Faith in one's own strength becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy. However, so is disbelief. Self-confidence training provides tools that work whether or not the participants believe it. But if a person believes in his talent, he will come to success much faster.

What are self-confidence training?

Self-confidence is based on three pillars: self-control, self-esteem and communication skills. Additional skills are patience, openness and the ability to maintain trusting relationships. Each meeting, one way or another, affects each of the skills, because they are all interconnected. Self-esteem trainings are traditionally considered the most popular. But they all have one common name. Therefore, you should definitely ask about the full program for all days of classes.

What are:

• Copyright. Media and famous personalities are fluent in the necessary skills to convey self-confidence. Meetings with the mighty of the world this ”inspire confidence by the mere fact of being in the same room with them. Even if the listeners are not going to cultivate in acting skills or build a political career,
• Copyright coaching. Well-known coaches have already accumulated enough experience to crystallize the essence of the problem. Such meetings are a mix of ideas, exercises, an appointment with a psychoanalyst and an instructive lecture.
• Behavioral. How to pump up eloquence or oratory skills, develop a gait or dress in such a way that you can pass an interview for a leadership position - the habits of a confident person are laid down bit by bit.
• Dealing with Weaknesses. Getting rid of fears or self-doubt, awareness of shortcomings, dealing with stress - all of them allow you to get rid of the "ballast". And fill the free space with new qualities.
• Gender. The male or female audience is more relaxed at the so-called "personal" meetings. This is especially true of interaction in the family, where the attitude to training is ambiguous.

The purpose of the training, regardless of the stated topic, is to create conditions for improving the lives of participants. You need to come to the event prepared and be ready to work on yourself. And remember that the coach before each meeting worries no less than the participants. But he overcomes his fear because he believes that change is possible.

How to choose self-confidence training

The path to success is strewn with thorns. Properly chosen training will help to stay true to the chosen course. WITH modern methods training, education and abundance of information it is more difficult to fail than to succeed. But all methods work only if the students have the desire. It is almost impossible to teach an adult something against his will. Therefore, you should not go to a meeting just because it is so fashionable or someone said that it should be done. The determination to learn new things raises not only morale, but also self-esteem.

How to choose a training so that attending it does not become a disappointment?

• Assess the level of preparation. An experienced speaker will not benefit the “green” newcomer. For the first experiments, one-day training-lectures or seminars are suitable. There, newly minted students will be able to get acquainted with the terminology and techniques of interaction with the audience.
• Realize your motivation. There are two types of motivation: "motivation to ..." and "motivation from ...". The first is the desire for success, self-esteem. The second is an attempt to avoid fears or get away from failures. If there is no clear understanding, go to introductory events or seek help from a coach or psychoanalyst.
• Understand the depth of the problem. In this case, a psychologist is indispensable. All problems come from childhood. And if an adult has unprocessed childhood fears or resentments, then no external instructions will help to gain faith in one's own strengths.

Self-esteem falls from inaction. There is no opportunity to attend the training - you can read the literature. There is no money to buy literature - there are a lot of blogs, official websites and articles on topics of interest on the Internet in the public domain. The first step is always the hardest. But for those who decide on it, life opens up new doors of opportunity.

Self-esteem, like self-confidence, is a fragile thing. She is constantly being challenged from outside. A person with inner strength never ceases to believe that change is possible. He finds support in inner values, because he knows what is most important in his life. Self-confidence training helps to pump up the “emotional” muscles with tension that goes beyond the capacity. But in order to gain inner strength, you need to make an effort.