What to do when you start to get nervous. - When do we get nervous? Slow inhales and exhales

The state of constant anxiety can exhaust anyone. Living under conditions of stress that you don’t know when it will end is steadily undermining your nervous system. But how to stop, how to stop reacting to these stimuli, how not to drive yourself into this abstract cage, so as not to find a way out of it later?

We must immediately begin to unravel this tangle of misfortunes, only for this you need to understand what thread to pull so as not to get even more confused.

What to do to calm down and stop being nervous

The first thing that comes to mind is to take action. When you are inactive in response to the fact that something or someone is pressing on you, you feel that you are even more letting yourself be crushed, trampled, destroyed. When you do something, you already realize that you can also control the situation and even turn it in your direction after a while.

But surprisingly, sometimes you just need to do nothing, at least outwardly. It all depends on the nature of stress and its cause. And let them think from the outside that the current situation has put you in a stupor, but in fact you just need time to carefully consider your further actions. Of course, it can be difficult to concentrate at a time when you are nervous, but there are a few simple tricks that will help you temporarily discard all worries.

For example, you can put a notebook or just a sheet of paper in front of you, take a pen and start writing a plan on how to get out of an anxiety state. If there is no pen or paper at hand, then you can open any application on your smartphone that would allow you to write a list. It can be an electronic notepad, a text editor, or even just a calendar. The latter is preferable in the case when you need to outline a specific action on certain date or hour. The same manipulations can be done on a tablet, laptop or home computer. But it’s better not to make plans on working computing equipment if you don’t want them to become the property of the system administrator or one of the other employees - well, then it all depends on the talkativeness of this character.

As the spies say: if you don't want outsiders to be privy to your plans, don't keep a diary under any circumstances! This also applies to social networks: it is there that you should not store the information that can be turned against you. If the reasons for your nervous state are serious enough, then the plan for getting out of it should be as secret as that of an intelligence agent. Another thing is when part of the planned actions will be laying out some information in the public domain. But this should be a thoughtful and balanced post, taking into account the reaction of various groups of subscribers and guests of your page to it. It all depends on the nature and extent of the stressful situation.

When everything is annoying

The state when you are ready to flare up like a match does not arise overnight. This should be preceded by a series of some kind of failures or experienced stress, to which it simply was not possible to immediately react violently. Then all the negativity slips into the subconscious, making pernicious changes there, and now: a pretty friendly creature suddenly turns into a real fury. "Do not approach her!" - Colleagues or acquaintances will say about you. And if you have at least a little bit of a position of authority, then you will turn into a person from whom you cannot even beg snow in winter. And others will be unaware that you yourself feel bad at heart, so you always break down on your subordinates. But in order to break this vicious circle, you need to start with yourself, because everything around cannot suddenly become bad, unlike your mood.

What do I need to do? Understand what was the catalyst for your resentment to the whole world. What exactly brought you into such a state of mind? Most likely, it was some kind of carelessly spoken word, an accidentally thrown remark, or some insignificant event, in the form of a torn buckle from your favorite shoe or a stain that does not wash off from a new blouse. In other words, it was the last straw that overflowed the cup of your patience. From that moment on, literally everything became infuriating.

So, it is necessary to catch this last drop and analyze, but what happened before it? Maybe some more powerful stress that you seemed to have coped with, but there were understatements, unresolved questions and contradictions. That is, you agreed with the situation, but mentally you could not accept it, and change it too. There can be two ways out: either you change your attitude to what happened, or you return to this problem and solve it differently. The main thing is not that you come out a winner, but that you stop lying to yourself that everything is fine, everything is fine, although there is a sediment in your soul.

Understand yourself and act! And in this you will find your peace.

After the breakup

One of the most powerful stresses gives a break in the relationship of a loving or married couple. Only the death of a loved one can be worse, but it was not in vain that they sang in a popular song: “Parting is a small death”, because it seems that a person who has refused to meet or live together with you is irretrievably lost. That is why many cannot quickly recover after the husband announced that he was leaving for another, or the guy said that he no longer likes you, and that he did not dream about someone like you at all.

We do not realize that building a love relationship is a strategic task dictated by the universe itself. And this task is the continuation of the human race. And we were created like this, capable of loving, only in order to keep the family as long as possible, in order to give the same love to the children who were born. And even if we just see one love for now, which is endangered, then our subconscious mind sees in this the collapse of everything - procreation, the inability to find a foothold in life, etc. It's like the ground is slipping out from under your feet. That's why so strong heartache may accompany a breakup. And it is precisely this state of mind that makes it impossible to correctly assess the situation and analyze it from beginning to end.

Surprisingly, not every breakup is permanent. Sometimes a person can change his mind and come back. As long as you are not connected with him by family ties, the guy believes that he has the right to choose the best for himself. For some, it's okay to spin in parallel with another girl to "make sure his original choice is still better"! Yes, these are the excuses friends often hear from a guy when they decide to shame him for his windy attitude towards his girlfriend. If this happens to a guy, then you need to gain composure, fold your hands with a pretzel and say: “Well, well, let's see what comes of it ...” If possible, say this not to yourself, but to him. If a young man sees your self-confidence, then he may well give in to her and no longer try to have an affair on the side.

Even spouses who left the family return, not like guys. A husband who has run away to his mistress may suddenly realize that she is not so good as a wife, and will leave her. And where should he go, if not to his home. Especially if he had children there. To beg forgiveness from his wife - and it's done!

Recover after a divorce

It happens that the situation with a love triangle leads to divorce. It is very difficult when the initiator of the separation is a man. This means that he goes to his mistress, and she becomes his legal wife. As a rule, such an act of a former and very loving wife causes great psychological trauma, and it can be incredibly difficult to pull yourself out of this state. Some ladies turn to psychologists or psychotherapists because they are unable to overcome the sadness that has fallen on them.

However, in most cases, the initiators of divorces are women. It is the fair sex that can radically break off relations. And although men still succeed in terms of earning big money and building a career, the weak half of humanity still has some trump cards to feel more independent. On the one hand, a woman still stands at the stove after work, cleans her apartment on weekends, etc., but she does not need to look for someone who will do it for her. As she coped with the housework herself before, so she will continue to cope. Men's housework is episodic. A broken faucet or a burnt-out wiring can be repaired by a specialist called to the house, and an employee or a neighbor, or even guest workers from a neighboring construction site, can hang a cornice or shelf.

That is why it is much easier for a woman to announce that she no longer needs a husband: you cannot buy her with delicious borscht or buns. The men themselves often forget that the weaker half must be conquered constantly: take them to restaurants, buy perfumes, beautiful outfits, go on vacation together. Therefore, they are often surprised when their wives declare their readiness to divorce. Of course, the inertia of the husband is not yet a reason for divorce, but if, instead of compliments, a woman constantly hears her husband’s reproaches, and even worse, if he raises his hand against her, then this is already a good reason not to tolerate such a tyrant in the house. Groundless jealousy is also common cause, according to which a woman either really begins to start novels on the side, or breaks off relations with her husband, whose claims are no longer able to endure.

But what is surprising is that many women, even after a divorce initiated by them, continue to follow their ex-husbands and even be jealous when they start an affair with another woman. It is quite difficult to explain such an extremely irrational approach to the situation from a logical point of view. Either vindictiveness or falsity of intentions during a divorce plays a role here.

If you are vengeful, you will wish your ex that nothing worked out for him on the personal front, at least until things work out for you. If you are not vengeful, but simply jealous, then it turns out that you initiated a divorce in vain. You just had to give an ultimatum to your husband: either he stops acting out, or he leaves. But if you still love him, then you shouldn't break up with him completely.

If you thought that he is the last moral freak who cannot be allowed close either to yourself or to children, then you should only be better off because he found himself another passion. This is a complete guarantee that he will stop upholstering the thresholds of your house. But ex-husbands often do not let up and periodically visit "to check their property", and such visits are often extremely unpleasant.

Divorce should be viewed as a path to a new, free life, where you can do whatever you want:

dedicate yourself to children;
find another husband;
go traveling without fear of becoming a victim of someone's delirium of jealousy;
start your own business.

Divorce is freedom, and this word does not go well with the concept of "despondency."

After a bereavement

The real reason for sadness is when someone you love dies. It's not just about the possible death of her husband. It is hard after the loss of a grandmother or grandfather, parents, beloved aunt, girlfriend. Any person who was in your environment and played a role in your destiny is always dear, and if death takes him, it is extremely difficult to recover from this.

Locking yourself in a room, and at the same time in yourself, is not the best way out. It is no coincidence that a funeral was invented, which gathers a lot of people who knew the deceased. It is no coincidence that these people gather at the wake. When there are those who can tell something about the untimely departed, somehow it becomes warmer in the soul, it seems that this person is still with us, he just left somewhere.

On other days, you do not need to close yourself from the world, spend time in communication. If you are a believer, then you can pray, go to the confessor. If the church occupies a small place in your life, then just try to be with friends, acquaintances, and do some business more often. Sometimes it helps to read esoteric books, from which you can get much more information about the immortality of the soul than from what the official religion offers us. When you really believe that the departed person is now in heaven or that he will find a much more successful incarnation in a new body, it will be easier to survive the loss. Just do not let yourself be drawn into a sect: sectarians often use someone's grief to convert them to their faith.

After experiencing stress or a strong quarrel

What caused the stress? If some person is to blame, on whom you don’t seem to be angry, then you will subconsciously consider yourself guilty. And you just need to call him to negotiations and make sure that he takes a share of the moral responsibility for the conflict. And this should not be revenge, but rather an educational process. After all, if you leave the offense of another person forgiven when he did not repent, then he will continue to do evil to others, without even thinking that he is wrong. As for you, without talking and without dotting the “E”, you will be disappointed in the world around you.

Usually both sides are to blame in a conflict situation. Someone fanned the fire, someone did not want to listen, one after another - and they came to an insoluble contradiction. Sometimes you have to look for a person who can look at the situation from the outside, understand it and reconcile both sides. But at the same time, each must carry out a certain spiritual work in her mind in order to no longer allow such quarrels and not hold evil.

Stress can also be the result of a road accident, an accident, a raging natural disaster. There is such a thing as "force majeure circumstances". If a flood has ruined all your property, this is a lot of stress. You can't get everything back. But on the other hand, you will have the opportunity to receive compensation and even reconsider something, arrange life differently. For example, generally move to a better place.

After an accident, sometimes you can not restore your car. But you can be glad that he himself remained alive and relatively unharmed. Some people even receive irreparable injuries, but find a reason to enjoy life, and even the opportunity to return to their former profession. Let's remember the famous rock musician Rick Allen from the band Def Leppard. In a car accident, the young man lost his left arm, but this did not stop him from pursuing a musical career. On percussion instruments, he plays mainly with his feet, with the help of several pedals, and, of course, with his right hand. The group performed all over the world and released albums, but this was preceded by a year when the rest of its members were waiting for the recovery of their friend after the accident. He had a point of support - friends. You probably have them too. And they will help in difficult times.

There are several options for how to clean up after stress. Depending on the situation around you, you can choose something suitable:

"hugs";
glass of water;
bath or shower;
communication with pets;
needlework.

When there is someone nearby who can hug and pat on the head or on the back, this is always a wonderful stress reliever. You will feel protected. If the situation is such that hugging is uncomfortable, then it’s good if someone just puts a hand on your shoulder.

If the feeling of anxiety does not go away until the evening, then you need to somehow persuade yourself to go to bed. It is advisable to listen to music before that, but positive, not aggressive, calm, but not sad, but, on the contrary, inspiring. In this case, it will be easier to fall asleep. And there - the morning is wiser than the evening. During sleep, there is an exchange of "data" between the subconscious and the conscious, which is why what was impossible to "put on the shelves" in the evening, in the morning already begins to succumb detailed analysis. Including your stress. And when it can be disassembled, as a schoolboy does with a word or a sentence, in parts, then you yourself abstract from the events, as if perceiving them not from the inside, but from the outside, from the outside.

If there is no way to sleep (let's say you are at work), then go to lunch. Who said stress eating is bad? This is much better than "lighting" it or "washing it down" with alcohol. Just do not pounce on a huge portion of meat and potatoes or try to swallow all three dinner dishes in one minute. That's the only way to ruin your stomach. You need to take something delicious for lunch, and eat slowly. Well-decorated ice cream is suitable in summer. You won’t be able to eat it quickly, but the process itself will bring pleasure. And while you're eating, your body switches from producing adrenaline to secreting digestive secretions. In winter, when you don’t feel like eating ice cream, you need to take a chocolate bar and break it into several squares, which you can eat gradually. Indifferent to chocolate? Then eat nuts or dried fruits. Such food - in small pieces - is a meditative process, akin to sorting out the rosary. Soothes 100%.

Water is a carrier of energy and information, in addition to being a drink and a means of washing. One is good to take a bath, which will remove the negative. For others, a warm shower, which will moderately invigorate and carry away all black thoughts with jets of water. Even just drinking a glass of water is a good help after stress. If you have come across information somewhere that a person in a state of shock should not be given water, then keep in mind that in medicine and everyday life the concept of “shock” is completely different. For doctors, this means stopping some of the vital functions of the body, and in everyday life, shock is a synonym for stress, leading a person to a stupor. In this state, you can and should drink water.

"Escape" from stress or show another physical activity- this is also a good method, because the accumulated negative nervous energy can be transferred into physical. Needlework is the same, only it is work with small elements. It does not require a lot of physical strength, but it is still an action, and it can also be considered a meditative process.

Animals in the house are real living antidepressants. A good dog or cat will always faithfully sit or even sleep near the owner if he feels that something is wrong with him. Even a parrot or a hamster is able to understand that the owner needs support. Sometimes dumb pets can work miracles by communicating with their owner and bring him out of his stupor.

How to calm yourself down when you're really nervous

Nervous tension can also occur in anticipation of some events, and not after them. The unknown is scary, and when you realize that the outcome of an action depends not only on you, it can be difficult to control yourself and not panic. But a nervous state is a bad adviser, especially when you need to concentrate as much as possible.

Before the exam

You should always remember that you can retake the exam if you fail to pass immediately or if you are not satisfied with the grade. If you are well prepared, then you will worry less than if you do not know anything. If you have questions (tickets) for the exam, then divide their number by the number of days allotted for preparation in order to evenly distribute the load on the brain and nervous system. Regularity of actions will give you even more peace of mind.

Before a job interview

Here you need to remember that at any one company where you want to get a job, the light has not converged like a wedge. It is likely that you yourself will not be suitable, but the chosen workplace will not fit for you. For greater self-confidence, you need to choose several companies at once, where you will go for an interview. Now not only you can choose, but you can do it too. Always be on horseback!

Before an important event in your life (wedding, birth of a child)

Have you decided to get married so that you will soon have offspring? In addition to a positive attitude, this should not bring anything. A wedding is a holiday in general. So why get on your nerves? This was earlier, when sometimes the bride and groom only met at the wedding, and their parents decided everything for them, then there was a reason for great excitement. Today, few people dare to connect their whole lives with a stranger. Therefore, all the reasons for excitement by the time of the wedding celebration should be left behind.

But preparing for the birth of a child is necessary not only physically, but also mentally. Being a mother is difficult, taking care of a baby when she herself has little strength is not easy. But at the same time, you need to know that caring for a baby is not a routine. After all, this is a living little man who still knows little, but already loves you. And you are his. Love overcomes all difficulties.

It is childbirth that causes more concern, since this process is painful and does not always go smoothly. Sometimes pregnancy contributes to a nervous state, especially the first one.

During pregnancy

Poor health - alas, a frequent companion of a pregnant woman. The body works in an unusual mode for it, sometimes it even experiences overloads, but on the whole it copes with them. But how can a woman know how her next ailment will end? But now she is responsible not only for herself, but also for the unborn child, and therefore begins to panic. Fuel is added to the fire by doctors who scold the pregnant woman for extra pounds, without even looking at the medical card, where weight loss due to toxicosis was previously noted. They scold for high or low blood pressure, for falling hemoglobin, and sometimes they recommend eating something that is not affordable or simply never eaten by a woman due to individual intolerance or lifestyle.

And you just need to remember that you can change the doctor, even if you are served under compulsory medical insurance. And yet - that pregnancy is considered one of the normal conditions of a woman. It is necessary to read more useful literature in order not to pay attention to the unfounded claims of physicians. You need to be ready for everything, but only believe in the good. A man who has not yet been born, you need to love, talk to him. If this does not help, then you need to sign up for a yoga section for pregnant women or just go to special auto-training classes. Such schools for young mothers are often organized in family planning centers or antenatal clinics. And if you live in a village where all these establishments are far from, then just listen to the advice of older women who have already had to give birth, and maybe more than once. The unknown is frightening. Here, just when you know more, you sleep better.

Before the operation

Surgery is no less stressful for the body than childbirth. And sometimes even more. After childbirth, a woman's body produces endorphin, aptly named the hormone of happiness, as physiology dictates. It helps the whole body to recover well, but for the postoperative period, nothing of the kind is “provided for” by nature. Therefore, the production of the necessary hormones depends only on your mood. If you think that the operation will bring benefit, and its absence - harm or death, then you will agree to the surgical intervention with joy.

Are you afraid of general anesthesia? Then you need to talk before the operation with the anesthesiologist, discuss what you are most afraid of:

allergies;
not get out of anesthesia;
that your mind will suffer.

The specialist will be able to choose such an anesthesia that suits you according to the indications. At the same time, you can make sure that cardiac monitoring is carried out during the operation, thanks to which the surgical team can see how well your heart is working. So, while you are sleeping, you are still being monitored and all emergency measures will be taken if something goes wrong.

Before flying or leaving

Believe me, many people are afraid of flying when they become adults. However, children rarely relate information they hear about a plane crash to their own journey. For them, flying is something that takes their breath away. It's so interesting! On an airplane, when only clouds float through the window, an adult can be bored. But for this there are books, games on a tablet or phone, scanwords or collections of puzzles. The main thing is to occupy your consciousness with something that would prevent black thoughts from sneaking in there.

Traveling by train is great! Views from the window, flying past the village, fields, forests and cities, rivers, in which the lights are reflected. You need to set yourself up for romance, and not think about the fact that a handcar or an electric train will drive into the tail of the train.

Trains and planes are operated only by professionals, unlike cars. That is why motor vehicles are considered the most emergency, and not at all aviation or railway. But if you go on a trip by car, then try to better watch the road, do not sleep at the wheel, and if you feel sleepy, then pull over to the side of the road or even away from the road and sleep. Only when the forces are restored, you can continue on your way. Compliance with elementary rules will protect you in many ways.

How to deal with a panic attack without medication

First you need to understand what this newfangled term "panic attack" is. In some incomprehensible way, he went beyond medical diagnoses, and now everyone who is not lazy applies it to any fear or stress. Doctors understand a panic attack as systemic manifestations, both on the part of the psyche and in the form of organic lesions. A person with a panic attack can vomit, he begins to have a strong heartbeat, it becomes difficult to breathe, throws him into a fever, then into a cold. Of course, with such symptoms, you need to see a doctor. But less intense manifestations of panic, in which not all of these symptoms are observed, but perhaps only one, you can try to overcome yourself. If not the somatic, but the emotional component prevails, then you can try to recover on your own, without resorting to the help of outsiders in general, and not just doctors.

Put aside everything for a moment and come to your senses

If you have firmly decided that you need to recover on your own, then first of all leave the conflict zone. If you are thrown into a panic by the dressing of the director, then leave his office, you can go into the courtyard or the nearest square, if it is not separated by a busy highway. After all, you must first stop being very nervous in order to adequately respond to dangers.

If you are pissed off by a phone call, then stop talking and turn off the device altogether. If you were working at this moment, then put aside your affairs and get distracted by something more pleasant. Office workers are advised to switch to computer game or viewing sites of abstract subjects. But for those who work in hazardous industries, it is better to say sick and go to the rest room to recover.

Meditation or prayer to calm the soul

It is much easier for a believer to come to his senses, because he feels the support of the Higher powers. Those who practice yoga or meditate also find it much easier to deal with emotions. Learning to meditate is not as difficult as it seems. Today there are many websites that provide instructions on how to start the meditation process.

As for yoga, it scares some people away with the complexity of performing asanas. But breathing exercises are also yoga, and you can perform them even sitting on a chair, and not on the floor in the lotus position. You can also study the breathing according to the Buteyko system, which is excellent for gaining good health and peace of mind.

Relax: drink water, coffee or eat chocolate

Oddly enough, but coffee and chocolate, which are considered tonic foods, in this situation have a calming effect, because they give strength, and strength, in turn, gives confidence. If a person is confident in himself, then he realizes that he is about to find a way out of the situation. And when the action plan is in your pocket, then the panic passes by itself, giving way to swiftness and vigor.

Accept the situation and look for a way out

There are situations that cannot be changed. Take, for example, being fired from a job. On the one hand, this is the loss of a stable income, on the other hand, it is a great opportunity to go freelance or look for more attractive vacancies than the place from which you were asked. This is a chance to make new useful acquaintances in business area. Finally, this is a reason to take a break, especially if the management chronically did not let you go on vacation. Temporary lack of work gives us more freedom of action and a unique opportunity to change profession, if this has long been wanted to be done. That is, you accept the situation with dismissal and look for a way out in the form of rest, getting new specialty, admission to study or even promotion, but already in a new team and with a different leadership.

In the same way, divorce gives more freedom. You can understand that a coward, a lazy person, a tyrant has left you. And you have a huge field of activity. First, accept the situation and just take a break from the men in your life. Well, then - all the bachelors become your potential suitors, you just have to choose carefully ...

How to learn not to worry and not to cry over trifles

Alas, often previously experienced severe stress makes us less receptive to trifles. But deliberately driving yourself into a stressful situation is extremely unreasonable. It is necessary to benefit from the stories of other people who in reality experienced almost apocalyptic events, coming out of them safe and sound. If there is no one among your acquaintances who survived a fire, a flood, or a serious car accident, or maybe got out of a foreign prison safely, then just read adventure literature, feel the fate of the main characters, and this should also help. You just need to at least mentally try to balance between life and death in order to understand how small insults and pricks of fate are insignificant in order to waste your nerves on them.

How to calm a guy (husband, friend) when he is nervous and feels bad

If a beloved man or just a friend got into a stressful situation, then he needs something different than we women. Representatives of the stronger sex are proud creatures, true leaders by nature. Even if the guy looks like a pure nerd, then a true knight probably lives in his soul. So, the pity of such a person can simply humiliate, and not reassure.

A man is not waiting for consolations, but for some action that could give him hope. If you don’t have not only plan A, but even plan B to get out of the situation, then you just need to make it clear to your friend or lover: “I’m with you!” Empathy and support work wonders. It is quite possible that the way out of an unenviable situation will not become so vague if not one person but two people think about it.

Once I was very worried because before every serious event, performance, I was so nervous that I either flunked everything, or I forgot something, I would not say it in such a tone, I would not present it so brightly. People worry before a meeting, when applying for a job, when they don’t answer close person etc. You can't enumerate all the situations. However, there are universal methods for restoring balance.

When a person is nervous, misses important events, worrying about the little things. At this time he has:

reduced mental activity, ability to focus;
cognitive deterioration (which makes you even more nervous - a vicious circle);
loss of control over the situation;
performance decreases, fatigue increases, fatigue sets in.

Work on a life plan. This allows you to pay attention to important events, and not worry about every trifle. Constantly remind yourself of the main goals and plans. Carry the list with you.

Reasons for concern

First of all, you need to explain the causes of anxiety, sort them out point by point. Determine not only the situation and your own, but also internal factors. For example, the excitement public speaking- a consequence of poor preparation or fear of being ridiculed, shyness, ignorance of the topic.

The nervous state, as a rule, is accompanied by anxiety and. This is the body's natural response to a threat. It remains to be seen whether the threat is real. In the case of the previous example, think about what happens if you make a mistake or someone doesn't accept your presentation. Is it so dangerous and important for life?

But the anxiety before flying on an airplane is fully justified. The potential threat always exists. But in this case, nothing depends on you, so you just need to accept all possible options.

So, identify specific emotions and feelings, the cause of anxiety, its object. Determine the influence of external and internal factors, your participation in the situation.

What to do

No need to deny and repeat "I am calm." Accept, face the fact nervous tension. After acceptance and analysis, proceed to active actions:

Inhale and exhale. Popular, simple and really effective advice. relieve tension, restore blood flow and hormonal background. Inhale deeply, hold your breath and exhale slowly. Concentrate on your breath. Body and mind are one. When you feel control over your breath, it will be easier to gain control over your thoughts. Try the five-three technique. Inhale for five counts, hold for three counts, exhale for five counts, and hold for three counts. So ten times. Breathe with your belly: inhale as you inflate, as you exhale, retract. Concentrate on the count and the movements of the abdomen, so you will be distracted from disturbing thoughts. Monitor your well-being. Respiratory techniques are prohibited for colds, respiratory diseases.
Think pleasant. Remember the most delicious food you have ever eaten, the most melodic music, the most beautiful picture, the most tender hugs. Think back to a situation of success. They happen to anyone, it's just that people sometimes forget about it. Bring back your positive attitude and self-confidence.
Nervous tension is. Calms the rise in blood glucose. To do this, eat something sweet or drink coffee. A quick surge of glucose will restore the energy and physical strength of the body, fill it with hormones of joy. You can’t systematically seize stress, but in some situations a chocolate bar is a medicine.
Tapping your fingers on the table, walking from corner to corner, swaying on your toes are the body's subconscious attempts to calm down. But what if you come up with the same thing, but more conscious and useful? Find an interesting but monotonous activity: someone embroiders, someone solves crossword puzzles or washes dishes. Come up with your own ways for different occasions: at home, at work, on the street.
The previous method is not suitable for everyone. If he didn’t help you, then try, on the contrary, to be active: push up, run, jump, wave your arms, stomp your feet, swear. At the moment of stress, internal resources are mobilized. There is an energy that needs to be released. Those languor that we experience - and there is unspent power. Release her. Under stress, physical forces are mobilized, thought processes fade into the background. Calm the body to bring back the mind.
Control the mind through the body. Forbid yourself to fiddle with clothes, slouch, look under your feet. Straighten your back, speak loudly and confidently, look straight ahead, demonstrate confidence and calmness.
Devalue the situation. Will it matter in a month, a year? Does it affect your health, success, well-being? But stress and anxiety have a huge impact on health. Recall something disturbing from the past right now. Does it matter now? If there had been a different outcome then, would that have significantly changed the current state of affairs? Were you able to clearly remember what you were worried about?
Keep an anxiety diary. Describe your experiences and observe which of them came true. You will be surprised how much time and effort you spend on inventing. Better get busy, fantasy is useful there.
Strengthen the nervous system. What you need for this: healthy sleep, good nutrition, regular physical exercise, taking vitamins, hobbies, favorite work, meditation or yoga.
Read D. Carnegie's book How to Stop Worrying and Start Living.

Make it a rule to draw your fears and worries. It is not necessary to have the relevant skills. Depict your fear (as it turns out), look at it, get to know each other, accept it. Now draw a funny hat or yourself next to it in the form of a knight. Perhaps your fear will take the form of a specific person. Or yourself. Why not?

Sometimes the causes of anxiety lie very deep, in childhood. Once rejected, a person is afraid of this all his life, and therefore often worries and worries. To eliminate, visit a psychotherapist, as in this case, advice on will not help.

Nervousness as a personality trait

Psychology knows many type qualifications. According to one of them (author Heymans - Le Senn), there is a nervous type. It is characterized by emotionality, low activity and primacy. Such a person:

reacts violently to any little things, takes everything to heart;
thinks long before acting;
easily gives in to emotions, but just as quickly forgets about them (mood instability).

The nervous type lives on desires and impressions. He does not like boredom and monotony. If this is your case, then advice with monotonous actions will not work. On the contrary, it is necessary to find numerous sources of different emotions. Main feature with which to fight is suspicion.

The author of another classification, Karl Leonhard, singled out. He is characterized by uncertainty in his own actions, distrust of himself, suspiciousness, timidity, indecision, fear of mistakes, an overly expressed sense of responsibility, self-criticism.

"All diseases are from nerves!" Today, many people repeat this phrase. If you find a way to stop being nervous over trifles and become calmer, then, as they say, you will be both happy and healthy ...

You can try to become calm, using the recommendations of psychologists, they often give advice: start meditating or throw out the negative on paper, do not keep it in yourself, say affirmations, go to a deserted place and shout properly. As a rule, all methods offer to relieve the already accumulated tension, but what should be done so that it does not arise? How to stop worrying about trifles?

Doctors meet with such patients every day, they always ask the question of how to stop being nervous. Everyone has anxiety, stress and its different manifestations. Most often, sedatives are prescribed, something harmless and light, on herbs. But there is practically no effect or it is short-lived.

So how do you stop worrying about trifles?

Now we are not talking about severe stress such as job loss or serious problems in your personal life. We are talking about the little things that poison the lives of us and those close to us - the elevator is delayed, the nail is broken, the phone runs out of power at the wrong time, the transport is crowded, etc.

This is irritation for the slightest reason, when everyone is enraged both at home and at work. There may be incomprehensible fears or inexplicable anxiety from scratch. Often the excitement of an excellent student before an exam is of the same nature.

These events seem like trifles from the outside. For an irritated person, this is a disaster, he begins to freak out, then he remains exhausted, but he cannot calm down and not worry.

Meanwhile, there is a way to significantly increase your stress resistance. You can become calm and balanced with the help of the training "Systemic Vector Psychology" by Yuri Burlan.

Why experiences appear

For some, the reaction to stress is manifested by feelings and fears, for some it is rashes on the skin and itching, for others it is an intestinal disorder or arrhythmia. Everyone is bad, but bad in different ways. And this is due to the peculiarities of the psyche of a particular person. Understanding this device, you can make your life much easier.

Training "System-Vector Psychology" by Yuri Burlan reveals the true causes of irritation. Any person experiences stress and dissatisfaction with life when he is unaware of his natural desires or ignores them, trying to live according to someone else's program. It seems to us that we want a little: love, prosperity, world peace. What does a person really want? We can only guess about this!

For example, a tender, sensitive girl loses her peace. She, a representative of the visual vector, was born for love, she, like air, needs elevated feelings and strong emotional ties. This is her way of coping with the fear of being alone. Breaking emotional ties can lead to unreasonable fears, anxiety, panic attacks, sleep disturbances, and vision problems.

Nervous "dumpling", which by any means wants to become a slender model. She exhausts herself with endless diets and long hours in the gym. Then I want to bite someone. I'm ready to give everything in the world for a pie. And kilograms continue to spoil the "problem" places.

How to stop being nervous and worried

To stop being nervous and worried, you need to understand those people with whom you have to face and contact. Do you understand them? Are you sure?

It happens that a person sees in others a manifestation of some character traits that he himself does not have, and he considers these properties to be a vice or gaps in education. Experiences and constant indignation loosen his nerves. And the irritant does not need to strengthen the nervous system, he sleeps peacefully anyway. In system-vector psychology, people's reaction to the annoying behavior of others is explained.

There are people who lose their temper when faced with slowness and slowness at home or at work. It is incomprehensible how you can swing and turn in one direction for half an hour, when during this time you can run back and forth. These are carriers of the skin vector. They themselves are fast and agile. Can do several things at the same time. And write, and listen, and also communicate on the phone. They consider a slow, balanced person, who is the carrier of the anal vector, a brake. Out of resentment at the lost time, they may begin to itch and their skin to break out in rashes.

And slow people get on their nerves with skin rushes that take on everything at once, make a blunder and often do not complete what they started. Well, how can you become calmer and not nervous? It is necessary to COMPLETE, bring to an ideal state, and not throw it halfway. When such people are pulled and hurried, they often complain of heart failure, abdominal pain and stool problems.

How to stop being nervous over trifles and be healthy

System-vector psychology explains that a person always has in his asset the appropriate properties for the realization of his natural desires.

A girl with an anal vector was born to be a hostess, she is homely and cozy, knows how to cook deliciously, sew and knit. She doesn't want to be a model. Her natural desire is to create a family, run a house, bring comfort, raise children. She, with a penchant for working with papers, assiduous and scrupulous, will not become a successful sales manager. Make her do an unloved thing and at the same time push and hurry - she is provided with worries and stress.
A quick and dexterous owner of the skin vector, who needs change like air, will want a change in impressions and movement at work. He is incapable of being carried away by monotonous reports. Therefore, it is difficult to imagine him as a calm accountant. Deprive him of movement, put him in the office to deal with some papers, problems may appear - flickering, anxiety and itching, pain in the spine.

I will explain how to keep calm and composure in any life situation without the help of sedative pills, alcohol and other things. I will talk not only about how to suppress states of nervousness and calm down, but also explain how you can stop being nervous at all, bring the body into a state in which this feeling simply cannot arise, in general, about how to calm your mind and how strengthen the nervous system.

The article will be built in the form of consecutive lessons and it is better to read them in order.

Nervousness and jitters is that feeling of discomfort that you experience on the eve of important, responsible events and events, during psychological stress and stress, in problematic life situations, and you just worry about every little thing. It is important to understand that nervousness has both psychological and physiological causes and manifests itself accordingly. Physiologically, this is related to the properties of our nervous system, but psychologically, with the characteristics of our personality: a tendency to experiences, an overestimation of the significance of certain events, a feeling of insecurity in oneself and what is happening, shyness, excitement for the result.

We begin to get nervous in situations that we consider either dangerous, threatening our lives, or, for one reason or another, significant, responsible. I think that the threat to life, not so often looms before us, the townsfolk. Therefore, I consider situations of the second kind to be the main reason for nervousness in everyday life. The fear of failing, of looking inappropriate in front of people, all of these make us nervous. In relation to these fears, there is a certain psychological setting, it has little to do with our physiology. Therefore, in order to stop being nervous, it is necessary not only to put the nervous system in order, but to understand and realize certain things, let's start with understanding the nature of nervousness.

Lesson 1. The nature of nervousness. A necessary defense mechanism or a hindrance?

Our palms begin to sweat, there may be tremors, increased heart rate, increased pressure in thoughts, confusion, it is difficult to get together, concentrate, it is difficult to sit still, I want to occupy my hands with something, smoke. These are the symptoms of nervousness. Now ask yourself, how much do they help you out? Do they help you deal with stressful situations? Are you better at negotiating, taking an exam, or talking on a first date when you're on edge? The answer is - of course not, and moreover, it can screw up the whole result.

Therefore, it is necessary to firmly understand to yourself that the tendency to be nervous is not a natural reaction of the body to a stressful situation or some ineradicable feature of your personality. Rather, it is simply some kind of mental mechanism fixed in the system of habits and / or a consequence of problems with the nervous system. Stress is only your reaction to what is happening, and no matter what happens, you can always react to it in different ways! I assure you that the impact of stress can be minimized and nervousness eliminated. But why remove it? Because when you're nervous:

Your thinking ability is reduced and you find it harder to concentrate, which can exacerbate a situation that requires the utmost mental resources
You have less control over your intonation, facial expressions, gestures, which can have a bad effect on responsible negotiations or a date
Nervousness contributes to a faster accumulation of fatigue and tension, which is bad for your health and well-being.
If you are often nervous, this can lead to various diseases (meanwhile, a very significant part of the diseases stem from problems of the nervous system)
You worry about the little things and therefore do not pay attention to the most important and valuable in your life

Remember all those situations when you were very nervous and this negatively affected the results of your actions. Surely everyone has many examples of how you broke down, unable to withstand psychological pressure lost control and lost concentration. So we will work with you on this.

Here is the first lesson, during which we learned that:

Nervousness does not bring any benefit, but only hinders
You can get rid of it by working on yourself
AT Everyday life there are few real reasons to be nervous, since we or our loved ones are rarely threatened, mostly we worry about trifles

I will return to the last point in the next lesson and, in more detail, at the end of the article and tell you why this is so.

You have to set yourself up like this:

I have nothing to be nervous, it bothers me and I intend to get rid of it and it's real!

Don't think that I'm just arguing about something I have no idea myself. All my childhood, and then my youth, until the age of 24 I experienced big problems with the nervous system. I could not pull myself together in stressful situations, worried about every little thing, even almost fainted because of my sensitivity! This negatively affected health: pressure surges, “panic attacks”, dizziness, etc. began to be observed. Now all this is in the past.

Of course, it’s impossible to say now that I have the best self-control in the world, but anyway, I stopped being nervous in those situations that plunge most people into nervousness, I became much calmer, compared to my previous state, I reached a fundamentally different level of self-control. Of course, I still have a lot to work on, but I'm on the right track and there are dynamics and progress, I know what to do. In general, everything I am talking about here is based solely on my experience of self-development, I do not invent anything and only tell about what helped me. So if I had not been such a painful, vulnerable and sensitive young man and, then, as a result of personal problems, I would not have begun to remake myself, all this experience and the site that summarizes and structures it would not exist.

Lesson 2. Are those events that you consider so significant and important?

Think about all those events that plunge you into nervousness: your boss calls, you pass an exam, you expect an unpleasant conversation. Think about all these things, assess the degree of their importance to you, but not in isolation, but within the context of your life, your global plans and prospects. What is the significance of a fight on public transport or on the road in a lifetime, and is it terrible to be late for work and be nervous about it?

Is this something to think about and worry about? At such moments, focus on the purpose of your life, think about the future, distract from the current moment. I am sure that from this perspective, many things that make you nervous will immediately lose their significance in your eyes, turn into real trifles, which they certainly are and, therefore, will not be worth your worries. This mental attitude is very helpful. But no matter how well we set ourselves up, although this will certainly have a positive effect, it will still not be enough, since the body, despite all the arguments of the mind, can react in its own way. So let's move on and I'll explain how to bring the body into a state of calm and relaxation just before any event during and after it.

Lesson 3. Preparation. How to calm down before an important event

Now some important event is inexorably approaching us, during which our ingenuity, composure and will will be tested, and if we successfully pass this test, then fate will generously reward us, otherwise we will lose. This event can be a final interview for your dream job, important negotiations, a date, an exam, etc. In general, you have already learned the first two lessons and understand that nervousness can be stopped and this must be done so that this state does not prevent you from focusing on the goal and achieving it.

And you realize that an important event awaits you ahead, but no matter how significant it is, anyway, even the worst outcome of such an event will not mean the end of your life for you: there is no need to dramatize and overestimate everything. It is precisely from the very importance of this event that the need to be calm and not to worry arises. This is too much of a responsibility to let nervousness ruin it, so I will be focused and focused and will do my best!

Now we bring thoughts to calmness, remove the jitters. First, immediately throw all thoughts of failure out of your head. In general, try to calm the fuss and not think about anything. Free your head from thoughts, relax your body, exhale deeply and inhale. The simplest breathing exercises will help you relax.

The simplest breathing exercises:

It should be done like this:

inhale for 4 counts (or 4 beats of the pulse, you must first feel it, it is more convenient to do this on the neck, and not on the wrist)
hold your breath 2 counts/beats
exhale for 4 counts/beats
hold breath for 2 counts/beats and then inhale again for 4 counts/beats - all over again

In short, as the doctor says: breathe - do not breathe. 4 seconds inhale - 2 seconds hold - 4 seconds exhale - 2 seconds hold.

If you feel that breathing allows you to take deeper breaths / exhalations, then do the cycle not 4/2 seconds but 6/3 or 8/4 and so on.

During the exercise, we keep our attention only on the breath! There must be no more thoughts! It is most important. And then after 3 minutes you will feel that you have relaxed and calmed down. The exercise is done no more than 5-7 minutes, according to the sensations. With regular practice, breathing practice not only helps you relax here and now, but also generally puts your nervous system in order and you are less nervous without any exercises. So I highly recommend.

Okay, so we are ready. But the time has come for the event itself. Next, I will talk about how to behave during the event, so as not to be nervous and be calm and relaxed.

Lesson 4

Depict calm: even if neither the emotional mood nor the breathing exercises helped you relieve tension, then at least try with all your might to demonstrate external calmness and equanimity. And this is necessary not only in order to mislead your opponents about your current state. The expression of outer peace helps to achieve inner peace. This operates on the principle feedback, not only your well-being determines your facial expressions, but also facial expressions determine your well-being. This principle is easy to test: when you smile at someone, you feel better and more cheerful, even if you were in a bad mood before. I actively use this principle in my daily practice and this is not my invention, it is really a fact, it is even written about in Wikipedia in the article “emotions”. So the more relaxed you want to seem, the more relaxed you actually become.

Watch your facial expressions, gestures and intonation: the principle of feedback obliges you to constantly look inward and be aware of how you look from the outside. Do you seem too tense? Are your eyes not running? Are the movements smooth and measured or abrupt and impulsive? Does your face express cold impenetrability or can all your excitement be read on it? In accordance with the information about yourself received from the senses, you correct all your body movements, voice, facial expression. The fact that you have to take care of yourself already in itself helps you to gather and concentrate. And it's not just that with the help of internal observation you control yourself. By observing yourself, you focus your thoughts at one point - on yourself, do not let them go astray and take you in the wrong direction. This is how concentration and calmness are achieved.

Eliminate all markers of nervousness: what do you usually do when you are nervous? Are you fiddling with a ballpoint pen? Are you chewing on a pencil? Do you tie the big toe and little toe of your left foot into a knot? Now forget about it, keep your hands straight, do not often change their position. We do not fidget in a chair, we do not shift from foot to foot. We continue to take care of ourselves.

That's actually all. All of these principles complement each other and can be summed up in the slogan “watch yourself”. The rest is particular and depends on the nature of the meeting itself. I would only advise you to think about each of your phrases, take your time with an answer, carefully weigh and analyze everything. You don't have to try to impress in every possible way, you will impress if you do it right and don't worry, work on the quality of your performance. No need to mumble and get lost if you were taken by surprise: calmly swallowed, forgot and move on.

Lesson 5

Whatever the outcome of the event. You are on edge and still experiencing stress. Better take it off and think about something else. All the same principles work here that helped you pull yourself together before the meeting itself. Try not to think a lot about the past event, I mean all sorts of fruitless thoughts, and if I spoke like this and not like that, oh, how stupid I looked there, oh, I'm a fool, but if ...! Just get rid of all thoughts from your head, get rid of the subjunctive mood (if only), everything has already passed, put your breath in order and relax your body. That's it for this lesson.

Lesson 6

This is a very important lesson. Usually a significant factor in nervousness is the discrepancy between your preparation for the upcoming event. When you know everything, are confident in yourself, then why should you worry about the result?

I remember when I was studying at the institute, I missed a lot of lectures and seminars, went to the exams completely unprepared, hoping that I would carry it through and somehow pass it. As a result, I passed, but only thanks to the phenomenal luck or kindness of the teachers. Often went to retakes. As a result, during the session, I experienced such unprecedented psychological pressure every day due to the fact that I was trying to prepare in a hurry and somehow pass the exam.

During the sessions, an unrealistic amount of nerve cells were destroyed. And I still felt sorry for myself, I thought that’s how much everything had piled up, how hard it was, eh ... Although it was my own fault if I had done everything in advance (I didn’t have to go to lectures, but at least the material for preparing for the exam and passing all intermediate control tests I could provide for myself - but then I was lazy and I was not at least somehow organized), then I would not have to be so nervous during exams and worry about the result and that they would take me into the army if I didn’t do something I will hand over, as I would be sure of my knowledge.

This is not a call not to miss lectures and study at institutes, I'm talking about the fact that you should try not to create stress factors for yourself in the future! Think ahead and prepare for business and important meetings, do everything on time and do not delay until the last moment! Always have a ready-made plan in your head, and preferably a few! This will save you a significant part of the nerve cells, and in general will contribute to great success in life. This is a very important and useful principle! Use it!

Lesson 7

In order to stop being nervous, it is not enough just to follow the lessons that I outlined above. It is also necessary to bring the body and mind into a state of rest. And the next thing I will talk about will be those rules, following which you can strengthen the nervous system and experience less nervousness in general, being calmer and more relaxed. These methods are focused on the long term, they will make you less stressed in general, and not just prepare you for a responsible event.

First, in order to correct the physiological factor of nervousness, and bring the nervous system to a state of rest, you need to meditate regularly. It is very good for calming the nervous system and calming the mind. I wrote a lot about this, so I won't dwell on it.
Secondly, go in for sports and carry out a set of measures that support recovery (contrast shower, healthy eating, vitamins, etc.). A healthy mind in a healthy body: your moral well-being depends not only on mental factors. Sport strengthens the nervous system.
Walk more, spend time outdoors, try to sit less in front of the computer.
Do breathing exercises.
Throw bad habits! Learn to relieve tension without cigarettes, without alcohol and other things. Look for healthy ways to relax!

Source

It has long been established that some people can work calmly under the most severe psychological pressure, while others begin to get nervous over any trifle.

When you need to change your attitude to the world

How often we would like to remain calm, balanced and unruffled under any life circumstances. But, unfortunately, this is not always possible. If, in principle, you react with restraint to most situations, and lose your temper only for serious reasons, then there is no reason to panic. It is vital to change your attitude towards people around you, the world and things in the following cases:

any situation causes you to have a negative surge of emotions;
can only calm you down sedatives;
any conflict causes the strongest feelings;
solving a non-standard problem drives one into a panic state;
you ask yourself questions: "how to learn to be less nervous or not nervous at all", "what to do if I suffocate when I'm nervous", etc.

In everyday life conflict situations and all sorts of unpredictable problems are simply inevitable. Therefore, each person must learn to adequately respond to any challenges of the environment. If this is not done on time, then the result will be nervous breakdowns, protracted neurosis, depression, of which there is only one way out - long-term treatment in specialized institutions, while you have to swallow handfuls of sedatives.

Why is a person nervous

There is nothing strange or surprising in the fact that people are nervous, since in the modern realities of the high-speed rhythm of life, stress is a familiar comrade (at work, in in public places, in queues and even at home). The whole problem lies precisely in how the individual perceives the situations that have arisen, how he relates to them and reacts to them. Quite often people don't realize that the problem is unnecessarily contrived. Mankind likes to exaggerate the scale of conflicts, unpleasant or unusual situations.

A few simple rules to help get out of a state of excitement

Are you wondering "how not to be nervous"? The answer is quite simple and lies on the surface. You just need to change your emotional state for the better. How to calm down and not be nervous? It is necessary to take as a basis, understand and accept one main statement, which is that in fact there are no hopeless situations. There are always at least two solutions to any problem. If you are unable to influence the situation, then you can only change your own attitude towards it. Also, when you get upset and nervous about something, you should think about whether this reason will worry you after a year. Most likely not, but if so, then what's the point of wasting your nerve cells?!

Try to become to some extent, as today's youth likes to say, indifferent, and then the result will pleasantly surprise you. You will notice that the world consists not only of white and black, but also saturated with all the colors of the rainbow. You need to learn to look at the situation from a different angle. Have you been fired from your job? So it's wonderful - you were given the opportunity to find a new, more promising or interesting job. When you begin to react in a completely new way to emerging unpleasant situations, then after a while you will understand that there are simply no reasons for excessive worries.

How not to be nervous

First of all, it is necessary to introduce a rule for yourself: to solve any problematic issue immediately after its occurrence. Do not postpone their decision indefinitely, as this leads to excessive excitement. After all, unresolved issues tend to accumulate, and over time you will acquire new cases. This will lead to confusion. You won't know what to grab first and what to put off. Naturally, such a suspended position cannot but affect the emotional and mental state.

How to be less nervous

You need to learn to stop feeling guilty towards people if you do not act as they would like, to stop depending on the opinions of others. Whatever the situation, you must put your own psychological comfort first. Don't strive to be good to everyone - that's just not possible. Even gold is not loved by everyone. If you refused to satisfy someone's request, then you do not need to reflect on this. If you did so, then you had a reason to do so.

How to learn to remain calm and self-control

One of the simplest, most reliable and affordable methods to quickly calm down and stop worrying about trifling things is walking. A daily promenade, in addition to psychological comfort and harmony with yourself, will give you a great mood and positively affect your physical health.

The contemplation of fire and water, the behavior of animals, as well as communication with wildlife perfectly removes the negative effects of stress and experiences.

If you have an acute question about how not to be nervous at work, you need to solve it immediately! To begin with, try to keep an aquarium with fish, and in situations that make you nervous, watch them. If this is not possible, the aquarium can be replaced with a plant. Get the flower you like and take care of it. Watching plants in pots gives people a sense of peace and tranquility.

Other ways to deal with psychological overwork

If you are haunted by an obsessive question: “I’m very nervous - what should I do?”, You need to remember the words of the old musical work, familiar to many since childhood, “The song helps to build and live.” Singing is one of the simplest and most effective ways to relieve nervous tension. You can sing while getting ready for work or back home, taking showers, or doing other daily activities. The main thing here is not to think about whether you have a voice, whether you hit the notes or how developed your ear is. You sing for yourself! At this time, all accumulated negative emotions are released.

An equally relevant way, especially for those who are indifferent to animals and plants, is to take a relaxing bath. To achieve a quick and 100% effect, it is recommended to add various aroma oils or sea salt with various additives that suit you.

Have you tried all of the above methods, and the thought “how to learn not to be nervous” is still haunting you? It is necessary to captivate yourself with some kind of hobby, become interested in something, switch from the useless solution of unsolvable problems. Alternatively, you can start painting or collecting stamps.

In extreme cases, you can resort to the help of pharmaceuticals. If you feel that you are on the verge, purchase sedatives at the pharmacy. The latest today - a dime a dozen! Starting from valerian, motherwort tincture and Corvalol, and ending with the now "promoted" sedatives "Persen", "Novo-Passit", "Cipralex", etc. But do not forget that these are drugs, and their uncontrolled intake can give rise to lots of problems. In addition, many of them are available by prescription. Therefore, it is still necessary to pay a visit to the doctor first. A qualified specialist will advise you on a remedy that is really effective in this case. If there is no time for trips to hospitals, consult at least a pharmacist.

Learning not to be nervous in the work team

Colleagues shun you, because they consider you not always an adequate person, the authorities do not trust new projects, you are tortured by the same obsessive question "how not to be nervous at work"? Remember: there is a way out, and not one!

Quite often, misunderstandings at work, perpetually dissatisfied management, nervous "always right" clients lead to stressful situations. At first, overstrain manifests itself in constant fatigue, then in increased irritability, and as a result we have a nervous breakdown. To prevent this, follow a few simple recommendations:

Did you know that a good imagination is the source of problems?

Situations that can be described by the words “very nervous” are quite familiar to people with creative imagination. It has long been established that people with good developed imagination are much more likely to be agitated than subjects who are completely devoid of fantasy. This is due to the fact that mentally solving any problems and analyzing options for resolving the situation, they very vividly imagine the picture. possible development events. And these pictures are quite convincing. People begin to worry, experience fear and panic. The fear felt by such subjects is of an irrational nature. However, for people with a vivid imagination, the possibility of a worse course of events is transformed into an expected reality. The only thing that can help in such a situation is a kind of auto-training. You need to constantly repeat to yourself that so far nothing terrible has happened, which means it is unlikely to happen in the future. Therefore, this fear is premature.

Paper will endure everything

A well-established method that solves the problem of “how not to be nervous” is the method of transferring troubles to paper. Most people worry more about non-existent, far-fetched problems. They are haunted by obsessive thoughts that take away a lot of strength that could be directed in another direction. Therefore, many psychologists advise putting all your fears and anxieties on paper. To do this, take an ordinary sheet and divide it into two halves. In one column, write down all the problems that you can solve on your own without the help of other people. And in the other - fears about situations that you cannot influence. For example, the fear of a possible terrorist act. Transferring irrational fears to a piece of paper allows you to come face to face with them. This leads to the fact that a person understands that he is not able to change anything, so he stops worrying in vain.

Love will save the world

Everyone around knows and accepts the statement that the world is far from perfect. But why then do many people not want to give themselves the right to make mistakes? Nobody's perfect. People don't have to be perfect. We love this world with all its shortcomings, negative sides, so why can't we love ourselves the way we are? Self-love is the basis of harmony and peace of mind.

Love yourself with all physical and psychological shortcomings, direct your internal energy not to anxiety, but to creation. Do something you've never tried before, like start embroidering. This type of needlework requires perseverance and measured movements, which contributes to inner relaxation. And then the question "how not to be nervous" will never again arise in front of you!